Andre Bamberski is much like most of the grieving relatives of murder victims who I have encountered during years as a True Crime fan, and what sickens me most is the public adulation and public support that such OBVIOUSLY Mentally Ill People receive.
Do some research on "Stages of Grief" and you'll find plenty of evidence to support the contention that people who grieve more than even a few years for their departed "loved one" are VERY Rare indeed. Yet, the Huge Percentage of family members of murder victims who NEVER Get Over Their Grief would seem quite normal from the perch of any uninformed and naive True Crime fan.
"Forever grieving" relatives of murder victims, however, go FAR Beyond what statistical norms of grieving relatives in general reveal. That their grief goes that far to the extremes of the "Bell Shaped Curve" technically qualifies them as Mentally Ill even without any further considerations.
More to the point, however, is that the more time that has passed after any personal tragedy, the less adaptive it is to a person's present point in life to continue devoting time and resources to somehow remedy the past. What Sob Stories like this one never reveal is the personal costs to truly unfortunate people like Mr Bamberski Who Simply Can't Free Themselves from the past.
What really irks me about stories like this one is that they reinforce the belief of those around the grieving relative, and in the general public that it is quite normal, nay even Noble for someone to waste the rest of their life being fixated on the ever more distant past. I submit that if the News Media and True Crime producers REALLY Cared about the grieving families of murder victims they would advocate for getting these poor unfortunate people professional psychiatric services to help them stop living in the Past, and to start once again to look to the Future.
However, it seems obvious to me that it is much more financially lucrative for both the News Business and the Entertainment Business to exploit these poor people and their grief on camera, and in narratives, rather than to get them the help that so many of them desperately need. I further submit that "The FOREVER Grieving Relative of a Murder Victim" is greatly a Media Fabrication that would not have existed had it not been financially profitable, one way or another, for Big Business Interests.
My personal belief is that no matter how great the injustice you have suffered in the past, it's just not worth throwing away your whole future because of it. There is no telling now what personal accomplishments our Mr Bamberski might have achieved, if he could have Just Let Go Of The Past.
{ Miss Havisham, where are you ??? }
